My husband has a son from a previous marriage is it normal to put his son as no.1 priority over me & marriage?

Priority but not love more. What sucks is when his kid grows and leave he will come to you , might be too late

Yes this is normal. That's the problem with being with a guy who has had kids and a previous marriage. The new wife will always feel second best.

What you need to do is talk to him. Let him know how you feel about not being first in his life. You should come first above all else just like as if you had his child. A good marriage, a marriage that comes first creates a good family atmosphere for children. No matter if the children come from other parents. A friend of mine has two sons from a prior relationship, and her husband has a daughter from a prior relationship. What they do is work as a team putting their marriage first. They communicate and respect each others opinions. Both are great parents, spend quality times with the kids as a family, and still keep their marriage alive by doing things alone. Neither one of them feel threatened by the other person's children, the children's needs are taken care of, and they are all a happy close family.

Your husband needs to GROW UP. I don't know how old your son is, but there is NEVER a justification for putting your hands on someone. I am surprised they allowed him back in the house after the arrest. Abuse is a cycle. This cycle has already begun. If your husband thinks it is okay to put hands on your son, it will not be long before he does it to you. He either needs to admit the problem and get anger counselling, or you need to end it now, before someone gets killed. Your son will be your son forever, this man started with a 60% chance of leaving (divorce rate) and sounds like he is not the man of your dreams. The man of your dreams would understand your son is a child who needs guidance and love, not a wrestling match to the death. He would have respect for others, and protect his family from harm, not harm them. There are so many good men out there that will treat you and your son the way you deserve. Don't stay with someone you know is not right.

I know it's a shocker to you but yes. Technically he shouldn't. Technically a husband and wife should become ONE and the kids grow up and leave the nest BUT a man (or woman) will always side with the kid they had from the other marriage. The child is their blood. He is always going to cover for him and that child will always be #1 with him but your second. That's how it works. I know I live this myself now. When you marry a man you marry is kids and ex that's the package deal you make in marrying a man with kids. When you sign up on the package deal now your lower on his totem pole. The child will always win out. One day the boy will leave and go off on his own. Dad will still pour love, money and attention but the adult child will more than likely ignore most of his attention. All the while your sitting back taking care of him and his health while the adult child ignores him. He'll still put the child first. There is just something about a bond that forms when a child is born. Yes technically you should be first......I agree....but that bond comes into the picture everytime.

Priorities are different.

While the child deserves to be loved and nurtured, this does NOT mean spoiling and allowing bad behavior.

He should NOT be disrespecting you, blowing off plans with you, or mistreating you in any way.

Talk to your husband about how you feel. Don't accuse, just tell him how YOU feel and how his behavior affects your marriage.

Yes, very, very normal! I think he would (and should) be labeled as a crappy dad if he put another woman over his son. My husband puts OUR daughter before me, as I do him. I don't get mad or jealous or upset that my husband loves my daughter more than me or prioritizes our daughter over me, because I am the same. I love my husband very much, but my child will ALWAYS come first. Anything can happen in a marriage, but my little girl will ALWAYS be my daughter, and I will always love her no matter what. There is no reason your husband should be putting a new woman he is married to, over his son.....I would be FURIOUS if my husband remarried and did that.

do you think your husband is really putting his son over you. he is a kid and needs his father attention, and you as an adult need to understand that. do you feel like he is neglecting you for his son? is his son having some kind of problem that he needs his father attention so much. and how old is this son? i think there should be some kind of understanding on both sides. where as there is not a feel of neglect or a priority is in place. maybe you need ot talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.

Yes it is normal on certain occasion.

I have a daughter from another relationship and I have been with my new gf for 8 years and yes on occasion my daughter will take precedence.

However most of the time the family takes #1 position. The wife or hubby unfortunately sometimes take second and even third place.

It's just simple family life.

As long as you discuss this BEFORE marriage, and you go into the marriage fully aware of his position on the issue, there is certainly nothing abnormal about it.

It is normal, he bought him in this world. I do the same thing I put my son first. I wouldn't worry about it to much. It just goes to show that he's a good dad.

Yes, your husband's son should be his number one priority...even over you and your marriage. He created this life...he is responsible. He is a father to this child first and foremost. That doesn't mean that you are nothing, it just means that you are the adult and you married this man knowing that he had a family prior to you. Let him be a real man....and you be a real woman...that child comes first.