John Smith

I recently started dating this girl and the prom's in a few months. I'd expect to take her since she's my girlfriend but she already promised to take this other girl to the prom (this other girl is straight and in a completely platonic friendship with her). I'm just wondering what to do about this if me and her are still dating by the time the prom rolls around and she has to choose who to take. Or maybe she could take both of us, I mean we're not afraid to go there but I'm afraid that might get awkward.

A little while ago my best friend (or a really really close friend) and I were web-chatting and she asked me out on a date. We made it "Facebook official" and it was really late so we both "went to bed" while we both flipped our **** with whomever we happened to be with at that moment. Today I was invited to my friend's house (and she lives with the friend whom I am now dating) and we all hung out and it didn't seem like anything. I mean it didn't feel any differently from when we usually hang out. We didn't hug longer than usual, we didn't do anything flirty and we didn't even call each other girlfriend or boyfriend. We haven't mentioned where our supposed "date" should take place and I know I'm probably freaking out on hormones and stuff right now and overthinking things but I have no idea how these things are supposed to work since this would be my first girlfriend. I'm a 16 year old senior, slightly awkward, and this (girl)friend of mine recently quit school and moved in with that other friend I hung out with so I don't get to see her very often either way. (P.S. her birthday's in 2 days). Any advice on how to do this whole thing?

I'm a bisexual dude and I've been wondering about the gender roles thing. I keep hearing that in a gay relationship there is no real male or female role but I can't imagine myself as either the man (if I date a girl) or the man (if I date a man). I guess I'm kind of genderqueer and I feel like a girl sometimes. That's no problem I'm over that. But I feel like I can't date a girl because they'll expect me to be the man while I don't want to be. Even though I'm a guy I don't want to take on that role. Does that make any sense? And does that mean I have to be in a gay relationship, is that going to be my only option? I can probably find a boyfriend that isn't into a really manly man. But would I be able to find a girlfriend that would let me be me and not expect me to be the man? Or should I just be exclusive to dudes?

I'm sleep deprived (being a high school student and all) much more often than I would like. I've noticed a few things happen when I'm tired that seem to happen to nobody else and the internet seems to have no clue about it. When I'm tired I always get really thirsty and pee more frequently. I'm not diabetic because this only happens when I get like less than 4 hours of sleep. If I get more I drink a perfectly normal amount, maybe less, but when I get too little sleep I drink all day. Is it because I drink more caffeine when tired? It seems a little extreme for a little extra caffeine. I also notice I can sort of feel a blunt something where my kidneys are. It's like I can feel my kidneys are there. It's not pain, I can just feel them there putting pressure on my whatever kidneys are attached to, like they're heavier than usual. Those are the two weirder ones. My eyes start to vibrate and shake a little, but I think that isn't too weird. Any idea why I get so thirsty when tired? Is this normal?

I'm sleep deprived (being a high school student and all) much more often than I would like. I've noticed a few things happen when I'm tired that seem to happen to nobody else and the internet seems to have no clue about it. When I'm tired I always get really thirsty and pee more frequently. I'm not diabetic because this only happens when I get like less than 4 hours of sleep. If I get more I drink a perfectly normal amount, maybe less, but when I get too little sleep I drink all day. Is it because I drink more caffeine when tired? It seems a little extreme for a little extra caffeine. I also notice I can sort of feel a blunt something where my kidneys are. It's like I can feel my kidneys are there. It's not pain, I can just feel them there putting pressure on my whatever kidneys are attached to, like they're heavier than usual. Those are the two weirder ones. My eyes start to vibrate and shake a little, but I think that isn't too weird. Any idea why I get so thirsty when tired? Is this normal?

I'm a 16 year old, and like every other teenager I fantasize a bunch about sex and relationships and stuff. Thing is I like to imagine myself as the girl a lot even though I'm a guy. It's pretty random actually because sometimes I imagine myself as a girl and sometimes as a guy. The gender of the person I'm with also changes randomly but that's expected because I'm most likely bisexual. I'm not transgender because I like being a guy but sometimes I just see myself as a girl. Also I don't just do it occasionally as a passing thought. I'd say it's about a third of the time I think about future relationships/sex I'm the girl. So what? Is it normal for gay/bisexual or even straight people to fantasize about being the opposite gender or is it just me?

I asked my parents to get me Netflix and my dad said no. I've asked him why but he just keeps saying no. I wish he would tell me so I can take care of whatever thing is preventing me from having it. I barely ever ask my parents to buy me something but my dad still says I'm spoiled. My mom asked him about Netflix and he got very angry at her. I don't know what his deal is. I think it's just that he doesn't want to back away from that no because he's a stubborn brat. I even offered to pay for it so it's probably not the money. I'm planning to bring up the issue again and I have a bunch of other convincing tools and reasons at my disposal for them to get it. My dad will probably just scream no again and walk away. I want to know if any of you have any ideas as to why my dad won't let me have it or why he's not giving me the reason he said no. Also, what do I do if he just walks away with a no if I bring it up again without listening to me (which he probably will)?

Ok, I'm a 16 year old bisexual male to start off and I've never been in a serious relationship so I'm not sure how it would work either way. I was wondering if it really worked the same as in romantic movies and junk. I've read some gay stuff and it seems the partners in gay romances seem pretty equal, meaning there are no distict roles and they just act and do what suits their personality. Now from watching romance and reading about it it seems that straight relationships have a pre-set instruction manual and a rigid structure. The guy does this the girl does that, not a lot of leeway. Now I'm not androgynous or anything (maybe a tad) but I'm not sure I would want to be put into the role of the male. Not to say that I'd want to be the female either but maybe a little of both. I have my feminine side and I wouldn't want to supress that for the sake of being masculine or chivalrous or whatever for a girl. I'd like to just go with who I am and not have to be the guy all the time. Can it work this way in a straight romance too, or does it really have set gender roles? I have no experience and I'm just wondering if this is really the way it is or if the romance stuff I watch is just being old fashioned with their take on masculinity and femininity?

I've never been the social type and never really understood the rules governing social relationships very well. One day this complete stranger started talking to me and we started to become friends. I soon realized that she was even weirder and more socially awkward than me, but I was ok with this and I put up with it. She didn't really go into any emotional depth but I'm not sure if most friends do. The only thing we do together is skate, which is fun and all. The annoying thing is her conversation style. She talks in increments of 1-3 sentences before changing the subject. It almost always seems like everything she says is intended as a conversation starter, and not an actual reply to what we were talking about. Here, I'll type up a typical conversation:

Me: Hey, how's it going.

Her: I'm doing fine, kinda tired, and you.

Me: I get what you mean, it feels like summer already started.

Her: I'm watching ant farm.

Me: Cool, my mom was channel surfing a while ago and I noticed that was on, which episode.

Her: I don't know. I'm tired.

Me: Yeah, summer you know.

Her: I'm going to watch Family Feud.

Me: Cool.

Her: How are you?

Me: Fine, I was just reading webcomics. I think I told you about Homestuck.

Her: I don't really like webcomics. Hey, Jeopardy is on.

This goes on for a good 20 minutes or so until one of us hangs up, logs off, or does something in real life to end the conversation. I've always had some trouble talking to people but lately I've come to suspect this isn't normal behavior. I try to talk about what I want but she always changes the subject back to TV, her being tired, or some other shallow small talk subject we spend 20 seconds on before she starts over. We never get anywhere and our friendship doesn't progress. Now here's the biggest part. She sees me as a best friends while I have other better friends. Her family loves me so much that they want to take me on vacation with them and they'll pay for me. I feel obliged to keep this friendship going, even though I either want more depth or something out of this friendship or to just end it because it's annoying me.

I've never been the social type and never really understood the rules governing social relationships very well. One day this complete stranger started talking to me and we started to become friends. I soon realized that she was even weirder and more socially awkward than me, but I was ok with this and I put up with it. She didn't really go into any emotional depth but I'm not sure if most friends do. The only thing we do together is skate, which is fun and all. The annoying thing is her conversation style. She talks in increments of 1-3 sentences before changing the subject. It almost always seems like everything she says is intended as a conversation starter, and not an actual reply to what we were talking about. Here, I'll type up a typical conversation:

Me: Hey, how's it going.

Her: I'm doing fine, kinda tired, and you.

Me: I get what you mean, it feels like summer already started.

Her: I'm watching ant farm.

Me: Cool, my mom was channel surfing a while ago and I noticed that was on, which episode.

Her: I don't know. I'm tired.

Me: Yeah, summer you know.

Her: I'm going to watch Family Feud.

Me: Cool.

Her: How are you?

Me: Fine, I was just reading webcomics. I think I told you about Homestuck.

Her: I don't really like webcomics. Hey, Jeopardy is on.

This goes on for a good 20 minutes or so until one of us hangs up, logs off, or does something in real life to end the conversation. I've always had some trouble talking to people but lately I've come to suspect this isn't normal behavior. I try to talk about what I want but she always changes the subject back to TV, her being tired, or some other shallow small talk subject we spend 20 seconds on before she starts over. We never get anywhere and our friendship doesn't progress. Now here's the biggest part. She sees me as a best friends while I have other better friends. Her family loves me so much that they want to take me on vacation with them and they'll pay for me. I feel obliged to keep this friendship going, even though I either want more depth or something out of this friendship or to just end it because it's annoying me.

Hey, I'm kind of hoping for another therian or whatever you want to call yourself to answer. I'm a therian or otherkin since I'm not completely sure if I'm a real animal inside. I'm not too concerned with the terminology at this point I just need help from someone who might know about this stuff. I've been having an M-shift or Ph-shift (again don't care much for terminology) wherein I feel phantom limbs like ears on top of my head and a tail. I've been walking on my toes for the last few hours just because it feels so weird when I don't. I feel like my body doesn't match up with how my own image of myself is and it's making me feel like I have dysphoria of something. I want to make it stop, it's depressing and I can't keep my mind off of it. Every time I try to wag my tail I'm reminded of the fact that I don't have one. How do you stop an M-shift or Ph-shift?

Hey, I'm kind of hoping for another therian or whatever you want to call yourself to answer. I'm a therian or otherkin since I'm not completely sure if I'm a real animal inside. I'm not too concerned with the terminology at this point I just need help from someone who might know about this stuff. I've been having an M-shift or Ph-shift (again don't care much for terminology) wherein I feel phantom limbs like ears on top of my head and a tail. I've been walking on my toes for the last few hours just because it feels so weird when I don't. I feel like my body doesn't match up with how my own image of myself is and it's making me feel like I have dysphoria of something. I want to make it stop, it's depressing and I can't keep my mind off of it. Every time I try to wag my tail I'm reminded of the fact that I don't have one. How do you stop an M-shift or Ph-shift?

I'm in my school's GSA and there's a Pride festival where we're setting up a stand to sell bracelets and stuff for funds and trevor project money. Thing is my sexuality has been a bit of an awkward aura between my mom and me ever since I blurted out a bunch of secrets during a breakdown, one of which was me being bisexual. I've dodged the subject and denied it every time she asked so it's kind of weird and I'm not even sure myself. If I tell my parents I'm going to Pride (I don't have a license so they have to drive me) will they assume I'm gay or bi or something or approach the topic of my orientation again, because I'd like to avoid that at all costs. I wouldn't even know what to say if they did begin talking about it. Should I ask them or just not go to the Pride festival?

I'm not a very social person, but I try to be more social. The thing is I don't really want to socialize that much. I'm naturally more comfortable being alone and doing what I want to do instead of talking to people. The thing is it feels like there's something in my brain, a socializing instinct, that's forcing me to talk to people. It's like I have an ingrained need to socialize that causes me to feel incredibly lonely and depressed if I don't, yet I don't really want to. Does that make sense? I have to socialize against my will or else I feel lonely. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel this way?

I'm not a very social person, but I try to be more social. The thing is I don't really want to socialize that much. I'm naturally more comfortable being alone and doing what I want to do instead of talking to people. The thing is it feels like there's something in my brain, a socializing instinct, that's forcing me to talk to people. It's like I have an ingrained need to socialize that causes me to feel incredibly lonely and depressed if I don't, yet I don't really want to. Does that make sense? I have to socialize against my will or else I feel lonely. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel this way?

I've always disliked the idea of a sexual attraction to furries (anthropomorphic animals), I was always in it for the art. I've seen my fair share of erotic furry art and I've never really been aroused. I've noticed that lately I've been having more and more erotic thoughts about furries and I think I might be developing a sexual attraction for them. This idea probably weirds you out doesn't it. Fear the unknown right? Anyways, if you intend to give a serious answer I'd love to hear your 2 cents on it. Am I developing a sexual attraction to furries?

I've always disliked the idea of a sexual attraction to furries (anthropomorphic animals), I was always in it for the art. I've seen my fair share of erotic furry art and I've never really been aroused. I've noticed that lately I've been having more and more erotic thoughts about furries and I think I might be developing a sexual attraction for them. This idea probably weirds you out doesn't it. Fear the unknown right? Anyways, if you intend to give a serious answer I'd love to hear your 2 cents on it. Am I developing a sexual attraction to furries?

Would you still love them if they were a member of the gender you weren't attracted to. Meaning if you fell in love with your partner, then they magically turned into the opposite gender overnight (example of course don't take it literally) would you still love them. Could you get past the fact that they don't have the genitals and stuff you like and love their inner self, or do you believe sexual attraction is needed for love and you couldn't love them anymore?

Would you still love your significant other if they were a member of the opposite gender?

I'm a bit socially awkward and and introverted so I'm trying to socialize more. This year 2 people have called me their friend and the moment they did I kind of freaked out (of course like always I just went along with it at the moment and had a mini-freakout at home). It caught me completely by surprise and the thing is I've never had a lot of friends so I'm not sure how to go about this. What makes a friend different from a normal acquaintance? Am I obligated to spend a certain ammount of time with them for them to stay my friends? How do I know if someone's a friend if they don't tell me they are?