Why do I get so emotional?

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I am 25, I have been pretty successful with my life so far, college, job, boyfriend... However I tend to get overly emotional and cry very easily. For example tonight when talking to my boyfriend about his daughter and her lack of doing what she is told, I started to get emotional in my voice and then my eyes started to water. He sees this as a weakness, does not want his daughters to learn this. I try to think of other things, bite my lip, hold something cold... to get my mind off of it, but most of the time it shows pretty well that I am going to cry. 

I also did this back in high school when I had to talk to a teacher about something, when I talked with my parents (a lot of times), and even at my job there were a few times that I came close. 

I am really tired of it. Yes, I understand that when I watch Shall We Dance, I am always going to cry at the same exact scene, and when I read a book that is sad I am going to cry. But what else can I do to not cry on a daily or every other day basis with my boyfriend? One thing with his daughter is that when she is around the tension is high (she doesn't like me, her mom abandoned her, her step-mom abandoned her and now her dad is happy with me.... and she is a teenager) We get into fights more when she is in the house. When she is gone for the week (at her stepdad's) then we have very little problems. It sucks because he defends her so much, but when I defend myself for something, he doesn't even want to talk because I am defending and he is not attacking me. He thinks that the crying is me making it about myself, and that it shows me being selfish. I can see why he would say that, but it still doesn't make it easier to overcome.

Lars · Accepted Answer

as a child probably you were disciplined a lot and your parents were very strict and had high standards for you. You probably did have a lot of confidence or you are o emotional because you always think of life to much. you think about what you could of done what you had wanted to do and what other people think. 
my advice to you would be to try something like surfboarding or something you would only fantasying about doing(except like murder and robbing a bank) what they inner Lara croft of you would do. buy an       expensive shirt. 
most of this were assumption based on the info you gave me

Anonymous · Answer

It really isn't something you are going to overcome.  It is a part of who you are.  If you are feeling the need to cry in front of the kid, and don't want her to see it then just go into another room for a bit.  You are an emotional person and that is fine.  So is my sister.  I am too, but I am a guy so I get more crap for it hehe.  It's actually bad for you to hold it in.  As in it's not good for your health.  And as for as it being weak and selfish, that has to be the most idiotic thing I have ever heard.  Showing emotions is a strong point rather than just holding them in.

xzten003 · Answer

you can overcome this easily you just have to take control over your life and STOP letting things effect you so easily. As far as i have read it seems like you are just letting things effect you to quickly and as a reaction you go straight to crying. Whoever you learned that from must of been your idol because you must of saw through that person's actions that he/she was getting whatever they wanted and all they had to do was cry! if this is not true then just tell yourself "I need to stop crying over everything, I must take control of my emotions and stop letting it control me!" IF you say this with a passion you will change but you must believe you will and take other steps to solve problems you face! hope this helps

RDX · Answer

Catch-22 calls them tears of indignation D;

I get those sometimes. They're annoying as hell, but there's not much you can really do about them...

Anonymous · Answer

Get THERAPY  you have deep emotional issues that are trying to get out.....

Anonymous · Answer

You need to take a spa date. 
Take some pills if nothing else.

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